Sun. Happiness. Travels.

Summer is the hottest and most loved season. It’s the perfect time for holidays to exotic places, getting your tan on, dancing till the break of dawn… and maybe meeting someone special. Do I hear a summer fling…?

Summer brings an air of excitement and a feeling that anything is possible. AND, when it comes to love, we let our guards down. We may find ourselves in a summer fling before we know it.

Having a summer fling can be a super fun way to have a carefree relationship, because it comes without the expectations and pressures of a real relationship. OR a summer fling could be something you regret after, like a bad hangover.

To see if a summer fling is right for you, let’s take a look at the pros and cons:

Pros of a summer fling:

1. FUN & EXCITING

Summer flings are exciting, because the focus is to have as much fun as you can before it ends. You can throw out all the “rules” of dating (i.e. who’s turn it is to text) and you’ll find your way, dancing under the sparkling lights of the Eiffel Tower.

2. LIVE IN THE MOMENT

In the spirit of maximizing your limited time together, you make the most of each day.  Summer flings will motivate you to actually do things. Hop on a boat to a neighboring island? Sure, why not? Yoga can wait.  You only have 3 days left before you have your one-way ticket home.

3. CREATE AWESOME MEMORIES

At the end of the day, summer flings will create some pretty awesome memories. Imagine all the stories you’ll have to share with your family and friends. Including that time you rented that scooter, discovered that secluded beach, and jumped in that crystal clear water (with all your clothes on or off… depending).

4. BECOME MORE ADVENTUROUS

 Summer flings, in general, just makes you more adventurous. Maybe it’s the sun in your face, or the sand in your toes, but summer flings just bring out the explorer in you. You’ve never kayaked a day in your life, yet now you are navigating the waters like a pro to keep up with your fling.

5. DATE SOMEONE YOU NORMALLY WOULDN’T

With summer flings, you won’t necessarily need to vet the same standards of finding a serious relationship. In fact, you might not even speak the same language, but that’s when sharing a romantic sunset is all that matters.

Cons of a summer fling:

1. IT CAN BE SHALLOW

With the short time together, summer flings are take it as you see it. There’s limited time to REALLY get to know someone (you might argue that your nights are filled with deep shared moments, but still. How well do you really know someone after 10 days?).

2. IT MIGHT BE TIRING

With summer flings, be prepared for sleepless nights because you guys are having the time of your lives.  You can always catch up on sleep later, right?

3. YOU SEEM TO FORGET ABOUT THE REST OF THE WORLD

It’s bound to happen that you will become so wrapped up in having fun, while maximizing your time together, that you will inevitably forget the rest of the world, including your family and friends. You will have an auto-reply message called “With my summer fling, please leave a message.”

4. YOU CAN DEVELOP REAL FEELINGS IN A SUMMER FLING

Oh no, did you catch some feelings? That’s understandable with all the shared experiences you’ve shared with your summer fling.  Well, you can always have a chat and agree to see where it goes post summer…  

5. WHEN IT COMES TO AN END

All good things will come to an end, including summer flings. Hopefully, there won’t be any awkward goodbyes and, if nothing further comes of it, you will always have those delicious memories with you.

Personally, I’m a fan of summer flings because, for me, the pros out weigh the cons. I’m a supporter of letting your hair down and living life. You might end up learning something new about yourself too.

Happy summer!

Ms. Mel