For those of you who haven’t been living under a rock, you know that online dating is HUGE right now. Pretty much every person you know has either been on a dating app or knows someone who has. It’s becoming the most common way that we meet people now. If you think about it, when is the last time someone with potential actually tried to hit on you in person? Probably awhile, right?! But what are those right questions to ask if you want the online dating to turn into offline?
With that in mind and all the other fun (and I use the word ‘fun’ lightly here) that comes with online dating such as ghosting and situationships (when it’s not quite a relationship but more than dating) it seems like dating is getting harder and harder. Look, finding a person worthy of deleting your online dating profiles for is hard, so here are 19 questions to ask in online dating to help you get a little closer… (P.S. While you’re at it, why not check out CLiKD to find people on your wavelength to ask some of these questions too!)
Look, online dating may have more ups, downs and turn arounds than a rollercoaster but it is a common experience that many can bond over, so use that. Also, this question is an easy way to find out what other people they’ve met on there have done and whether it went well or not. So then you’ll know what to avoid, saving you lots of time. This question can also be followed up by asking what they’re looking for. It’s best to get that out the way as it will save you a whole lot of heartbreak later on!
This is a good question to ask in online dating because a few pictures and a short bio (and they don’t always have a bio) can only tell you so much. It’s also a great way to find out if you enjoy similar activities. Who knows, maybe they partake in an activity that you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t had the chance yet. The answer to this question can also help if you get to the actual date stage (be a little optimistic, guys!)
It’s always useful to find out how someone spends the majority of their days, especially since not everyone lists it on their online dating profile. Try not to make the question sound like you’re judging them though! Remember that the ladder some people have to climb to career satisfaction is higher up than others.
One of the pros of online dating is that it allows you
to meet a whole lot of new people who have the potential
to be interesting.
One of the pros of online dating is that it allows you to meet a whole lot of new people who have the potential to be interesting. It’s always great to meet people from different places and different backgrounds. The world is a huge place and you can learn a lot from broadening your perspective. Also, if things go well, a new place to visit, so definitely one of the top questions to ask in online dating! And if you are wondering about the do’s and dont’s when dating a foreigner, you can read them all here.
Who doesn’t love travel?! Even if you can’t afford to travel a lot, it’s still nice to talk about future travel plans. It’s also a good way to see if someone is interested in the world around them.
Sometimes if the conversation is getting a bit stagnant, it’s nice to throw in some curveball questions to get things flowing again. Questions like this are one of the best ways to truly get to know someone, instead of going the conventional route of ‘how are you’ etc.
Look, I’m going to be honest with you guys… I’m a huge superhero fanatic so this question is super important to me. Also, it’s fun to see what people say and to find out why they picked that answer. It’s actually a pretty revealing question.
This question in online dating app is a good way to get someone talking. Pretty sure one thing that research keeps showing us about humanity is that we will never tire of talking about ourselves. This is one way to let someone do that without them talking to you.
You can bond with almost anyone over any of these and it’s always interesting to find out if someone reads for leisure. A good book, movie or song will stay with you long after it’s finished, so it’s a good way to either bond over shared interests or get new recommendations. Win – win!
If you’re the type of person who takes risks or you’re attracted to people who do, then this will help you figure out if you’re on the right track.
If I have to explain why this question is important to ask in online dating, then we can’t be friends #foodieforlife
If you’re the type of person who dreams of living in a rom com, then asking this question can help you find your leading man/lady (although honestly, why would anyone want to live in a rom com?! The characters usually do terrible things to each other that would be completely unacceptable in real life but somehow end up together, probably with major trust issues if it was actually a realistic movie, but who am I to judge…?)
This question will help you figure out if you are on the same wavelength and also it will help you avoid awkwardness (especially if you’re anything like me and your sense of humour can be a somewhat… acquired taste.)
Who doesn’t want to hang out with a cute dog or cat?! In fact, your pet is likely to get you more dates. Not saying you should pimp your pet out, but you got to do what you got to do. Online dating is tough, use what you got.
The thing to remember about online dating is that it’s all about getting to know someone, so asking if they’re an optimist or a pessimist will help you understand how they think. Well, until humans evolve to include mind reading that is (x-men anyone?)
The truth is not everyone is lucky enough to be doing a job that they’re passionate about. No one should judge you for that, not everyone has the luxury to love their job and pay their bills at the same time (adulting can be a cruel mistress) but you shouldn’t let those circumstances stop you from exercising your passions OUTSIDE of work. This question is great for people who aren’t doing their dream job yet (I say yet because we believe in you!!)
Dating can leave you with your confidence shaken so
encouraging someone to take pride in themselves is great,
even if things between the two of you don’t go anywhere.
Self-deprecation is very common (I indulge in it all too often) so this question is just the one to give the person you’re chatting to online a confidence boost. Dating can leave you with your confidence shaken, so encouraging someone to take pride in themselves is great, even if things between the two of you don’t go anywhere. Think of it as your good deed for the day 😉
We all have dreams. Finding out what someone’s is can help you get an initial idea of how they matured, or not, into the person that is chatting with you today. Also, someone who has goals and dreams means that they’ve pictured their future. Someone who can think ahead is very attractive indeed.
Hopefully, if you have gotten to the stage where conversation is flowing and you haven’t decided that you detest this person, yet, then the next logical step is to take this online dating magic you two got going on and see if it can survive in the exposure of meeting in real life. We wish you the best of luck with that 😉