If you’re dating, or thinking about dating, an older man, you may be worried about keeping him interested. While your concerns are perfectly natural, keeping him interested isn’t as much of a problem as you might imagine. In fact, you may find dating an older man easier than dating a man your age, who is likely to be less mature than you.
Here are several key tips for dating older men:
Since an older man may have a broader perspective on life simply because he has more experience, you can ask him questions that a younger man might find threatening. For example, you can ask him about career growth or money management because he is likely to be very supportive, offer advice based on his experience, refer you to professional colleagues or simply point you to where you can find your best answers.
You can ask him questions that a younger man might find threatening
If you focus on reading more and staying on top of current affairs, you’ll find it easy to dispense with the awkwardness that sometimes accompanies getting to know each other. Being aware of what’s going on in the world, and of topics that might interest a professional or someone involved in business or current affairs, will make you a good conversationalist. While you don’t have to be an expert on the things that interest an older man with an established career, you should know enough to ask interesting questions. It’s only when you really have absolutely no idea about anything that he may feel uncomfortable talking to you about social topics or inviting you to meet his friends for cocktails.
When you do your own thing, such as pursuing your favorite athletic interests, forms of entertainment, education or career path, you will give your older man room to do his own thing. Some men, especially men at the peak of their career, often need space to figure out their next step in life or how to solve work-related problems. If you’re busy doing your own thing, then you won’t smother him with an excessive amount of attention.
While men appreciate a woman who needs them, they also appreciate a woman who is independent: a person who can make decisions, earn money and take care of herself. When you don’t feel independent, you place a burden on the relationship. Even if a man earns a lot more than you and can easily take care of all your expenses, he will feel suffocated if he has to take care of all the bills and expenses, plus make all the decisions about where to go out to dinner, where to shop, and other simple things. So stay self-assured, confident, and fairly independent.
When you don’t feel independent, you place a burden on the relationship
When you meet an older man you want to date, don’t let age be a barrier. Science has shown us that chronological age is just a number. Areas such as health, exercise and mental attitude are more of an indicator of body age than the number of years. Some people may be much older than their mental, emotional and social age would suggest, while others may have had life experiences that make them think and act older than their birth age.
If you really like someone who is considerably older, the relationship is usually based on compatible personalities, common interests and chemistry. An age difference between two people who really like each other is something that quickly ceases to be an obstacle.