Public displays of affection. PDA. We’ve all seen it go too far. Let’s be honest, maybe we were part of PDA going too far… (it happens to us all, especially after some Tequila) but you know what I mean. When people are making out and you can see their tongues or when there’s some inside the pants action. It’s excessive. It’s gross. We can see you, people c’mon! So, to help you out, here are 6 do’s and don’ts of public displays of affection.

• Do have a cute little goodbye

No matter what stage of dating you’re at, you might not be going home with each other every time you meet up. You might be going your separate ways for work or any number of reasons. Either way, a cute little hug and kiss is a good amount of PDA. Full on make outs as if one of you is going to war and may never come back? Unnecessary. Reign it in!

• Don’t feed each other in restaurants

I cannot stress this enough. No one, NO ONE, wants to see your public displays of affection, especially if it involves you feeding each other. Are you a baby? Did something happen to your hands? Nope. When people go out to a restaurant, they don’t want to see that. They don’t want to see people cuddling in the booths or stroking each other’s thighs under tables. Save that for your houses.

• Do hold hands

It’s a small thing, but it can be intimate. Just a nice bit of PDA to remind each other that you’re there. It offers comfort when needed. It’s also a sweet way to guide each other in crowded spaces and also a secret way to communicate. You can squeeze each other’s hands when you’re stressed or something pisses you off and you don’t want to say it out loud. It’s like a whole little language, just for you.

• Don’t get in other people’s way

No brainer. Public displays of affection that obstruct other people going about their daily lives is a huge no no! We’re not out here trying to squeeze past you on staircases, move around you in the streets or attempting to get around you to get on/off the tube. To borrow the words of Miss Taylor Swift, we would like to be excluded from this narrative…

• Do look out for/comfort one another

Putting your arm around each other, eye contact (just general eye communication) little moments like that are a definite yes. Just like holding hands, it’s something that’s just for the two of you. Public displays of affection should be about just you two, not going over the top in a way that makes other people uncomfortable. Everyone will get that you’re a couple, even with smaller displays. So chill!

• Don’t basically dry hump in public

If it’s something that is basically sex in public, then no. End of. Thanks for coming to this TED talk.

So, there you have it! 6 do’s and don’ts of public displays of affection. As much as we all love love, no one wants to see it get sloppy. We’ve all got places to be and over the top PDA can’t really be unseen so… bear that in mind. Aside from that, congratulations on meeting someone who wants to publicly show their affection 😉