In these times of Grindr it is normal to be nervous on a first date. First, we should clarify that we are referring to a date that does not explicitly involve a sexual encounter, but rather a classic date, the kind where you have a coffee or go out for dinner or a walk. We are not talking about that date you might have with a “straight” stud/fuckboy with a faceless photo in his house 200 meters away from you. That said, let’s talk about what you mustn’t do to make a good impression. We encourage you to download the CLiKD Dating App if you’re looking for a connection with your prince charming and not just a date to get laid.
Here are 6 things to avoid on a gay first date.
It’s normal that when you go on a first date with someone, the questions will fly out of curiosity about who the other person is. You have to be opened to sharing basic details about your life: what you do for a living, where you’re from, what your hobbies are… but be careful about sharing too much information. Everything has its moment and sharing certain things on a first date can be interpreted as showing off and being narcissistic. On a first date it is never appropriate to talk about money, such as how much you earn, the make of your car or how much you pay for your rent. There will be time to share more information over time, if things go well…
Sharing certain things on a first date can be interpreted as showing off and being narcissistic.
I’m sure you’ll have a lot of questions to ask the guy you’re dating and interested in, to see if you can hit it off or if you share interests. But it’s one thing to be curious and another to subject him to the third degree. Do not ask questions related to topics such as those mentioned in the previous point and leave space for the other person to ask questions and talk.
If you go for coffee on your first date, it is not appropriate to ask at the drop of a hat whether he is top or bottom. Of course, sexual compatibility is important, but on a first date you should not talk about sex. If you want to have a date to get laid, we are talking about a different kind of date. Now focus on getting to know this person and how you feel around him.
Sexual compatibility is something important, but on a first date you should not talk about sex.
No one likes a guy who brags all the time and tries too hard to look good. Be yourself and be humble. You don’t need to take him to an expensive restaurant, to show him how cool you are all the time or to mention your contacts with famous or important people. And don’t talk about your thousands of followers on Instagram, please. Don’t be fake.
If the first date went well it’s inevitable to want to know if the other person feels the same and if they had a good time just like you. But don’t jump the gun by asking “what did you think?” or asking for a second date too quickly. It makes you look desperate and needy. It’s best to make it clear that you had a good time, period. If he responds, great, but if he doesn’t, don’t go begging. Let it all flow, don’t force it.
It’s best to make it clear that you had a good time, period.
Distinguish between dates and hook ups. Be clear about when you’re meeting someone and when you’re meeting someone to have sex with them. They are not incompatible but ending a first date by making out with him and getting naked… haste is not a good advisor. If a kiss comes up at the end of the date, great, but keep in mind that the goal of the date is to meet someone, see if you connect and find out if a relationship can develop. It all comes.
And so, here are 6 tips to keep a gay first date from being a catastrophe. Remember that even though it’s Pride month, and hormones are raging, that doesn’t mean there’s still no hope of finding your prince charming.