I’m going to be honest, there is not much I love more than my independence. For me, one of my worst nightmares is a clingy partner. Someone needing to be with me all the time is just suffocating and I’m not the only one that feels that way. I’ve always seen clinginess as signs of jealousy, co-dependency and just an overall lack of trust. Miss me with all that unhealthy behaviour please! Of course, there are underlying reasons why people might be clingy and there are definitely situations where that can be worked through with open communication. However, it’s important to be able to recognise clingy behaviour. So, here are 5 traits that are considered clingy in a relationship…
Yes, it’s always nice when you’re seeing each other to know that they’re starting to think long term. However, there is a difference between seeing someone for a few months, then talking about being exclusive vs. them bringing you to meet their parents on the third date. If they think that after a couple of dates, you should be moving in together and planning your wedding, they’re definitely clingy in a relationship. Check out CLiKD to see what people are looking for in a partner.
It’s healthy to have friends outside your relationship.
Hi. Just because you’re dating someone, doesn’t mean you have to do and go everywhere together. I don’t know who needs to hear this, but now you have! It’s ok to do enjoy doing different things with different people. Maybe you have friends you always go to brunch with, but they’re not the same friend group that you would travel with. It’s healthy to have friends outside your relationship. Sure, it’s great to introduce the person you’re seeing to your friends, but if they’re getting pissed that they’re not your plus one for everything? The clinginess is showing…
As much as people say it’s romantic when someone says their partner is their whole world, it can also be a lot of pressure. Having interests is what makes you a well-rounded human being. I’d actually say it’s a good thing if you and your partner don’t have all the same interests. However, it’s definitely a sign they’re getting clingy in a relationship when you become their sole interest. Especially when they seem to have all of a sudden forgotten they have friends for example. I was sent an illustration on Instagram that explains it best. Think of your life as a solar system and your partner as one of the planets, there are many planets that make up the solar system!
Being this type of clingy in a relationship can point to a
bigger problem that needs to be addressed.
We all love a flame emoji on our latest selfie every now and then. However, regularly going through your social media to see who you’re following, who is commenting and liking your pics or keeping track of where you are via your stories? Clingy and getting into generally creepy territory. No thank you!
Look, we all get insecure sometimes. Especially when seeing someone new. However, there is a difference between needing some reassurance every now vs. needing it constantly. It gets to a point where no matter how much reassurance you give, they’ll never be satisfied or secure. Being this type of clingy in a relationship can point to a bigger problem that needs to be addressed.
So, there you have it! 5 traits that are considered clingy in a relationship. It’s important to be able to talk about this with your partner when you start to see the signs. If it persists, it’s time to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you or not.