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5 Clear Signs You’re Dating A Commitment-Phobe

  • 5 Clear Signs You’re Dating A Commitment-Phobe

    Ah, commitment. Can seem like a rarity to those trying to date right now. Let’s be honest, there are new dating terms every day that seem to describe a relationship, without outright calling it one. If you’ve been open and clear about your intentions and you’re both on the same page, amazing! However, we’ve all either had (or know of someone) who has dated someone with commitment phobia. This can be caused by many things, past experiences for example and that baggage is just been taken everywhere. This can cause a ton of stress and confusion that can be avoided altogether if we just knew what red flags to look out for. So, here are 5 clear signs you’re dating a commitment-phobe…

    A commitment-phobe running from commitment

     

    • They’re very sporadic with messaging even after amazing dates

    I’m very much a believer that if you both like each other, it shouldn’t really matter who messages first. However, it does matter if you are always the one initiating all contact. If you’re dating a commitment-phobe, this will be the case. Even if they had a great time on your date. They’re also likely to just drop of the face of the earth for long periods of time, only to randomly reappear as if that’s the norm. Not cool. It’s important to call out this behaviour ASAP, so it doesn’t become the norm.

     

    • If you’re dating a commitment-phobe, they’ll refuse to call anything a relationship

    This is not just limited to whatever is happening between the two of you, this also includes past relationships. They also won’t admit they had any fault in how those relationships ended. Another clear sign you’re dating a commitment-phobe is if they don’t have any sort of close relationships in their lives, like friendships. This shows that they just avoid any sort of deep relationships.

     

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    They might be good with saying they like you in writing, but when it

    comes to publicly showing that you’re together? Well that’s a

    commitment they just won’t make…

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    • They hate planning ahead and are very vague about when they’re free

    When you do try to arrange meeting up again, they’re annoyingly vague about their own timetable. They’ll also just be generally flakey, cancelling or rescheduling plans at the last minute. Everything always has to be about their convenience. They’d rather everything, and anything, be last minute.

    • They’re not the best with any sort of PDA

    If you're dating a commitment-phobe, they hate pda

    While they’ll start of being charming and very attentive in private, if you’re dating a commitment-phobe, they won’t show their affection in public. They might be good with saying they like you in writing, but when it comes to publicly showing that you’re together? Well that’s a commitment they just won’t make…

     

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    It’ll be framed as a problem that you’re making or they might outright

    refuse to address it and just become moody and even more distant.

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    • You feel like you’re being gaslighted when you bring it up

    Lastly, and mostly importantly. They’ll make you start to doubt yourself when you bring it up and make you think that you’re going crazy. It’ll be framed as a problem that you’re making or they might outright refuse to address it and just become moody and even more distant. Gaslighting is always unacceptable so, if you’re experiencing it, run the other way!

    say 'boy bye' if you're dating a commitment-phobe

    So, there you have it! 5 clear signs you’re dating a commitment-phobe. Now you know the signs, you can decide what to do next. Best of luck!