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All the dating advice a woman could need in just two tips!? It’s a bold title, but let me explain. Would you like to just cut through all the unnecessary dates and late nights out with the wrong person? Throughout history, the way we communicate and (for the most part) choose our partners has been through social circles, friends, university, work colleagues, etc. Of course, that’s fine, but you now have more options than ever before. If you’re tired of blind dates set up by your sister in law or best friend, keep reading! You’re about to cut through the crap and find out the most useful advice for women about the new world of DATING in 2019
How to prepare and what to look for when dating in 2019:
For the most part, majority of us don’t know what we want or who we are. If you’re reading this, chances are that you are not one of them though. You know what type of dates will make you feel special. You also know the one that you don’t want to be approached by in a night environment ever again.
Now, how do we put into practice all I mentioned above (and more) to get you on the right track and dates. A very special person of mine once taught me something that I live by every day. As women it’s all about having more quality dating time with that special someone. Like this. I can spend my time with a person who also want to spend time with me. We need common ground, like sharing the same silly jokes, liking the same type of books and the Avengers movies. I think they are highly entertaining… and yeah, there are other women that like them just as much. To find someone on your wavelength, these are the two questions that you should ask yourself and reflect on it;
- What type of women am I?
- What type of men would be the best for me to date?
Take my advice, if you answer these two questions, you’ll be ahead in the game of dating for 2019. You’ll know exactly what you are screening for and who would be right for you. I don’t believe in 50%-50% relationships. I believe that if you know who you are, you should have a partner that has the same goals, ambitions, interests, beliefs, etc. Take it from a with the right person it’s 100%-100% where you spend the most amount of time having to do something with your partner that you both enjoy. If you have a relationship where nearly everything you do together is based on shared interests, then this is a very smooth and low maintenance relationship. In this way, it’s like you’re meant for each other, because you have the same worldview.
I hope, by now, I have challenged some of your long held beliefs from previous dating advice for women, trash you might have seen in Hollywood movies for example! Even though Hollywood movies have had a big impact on us, like the film The Notebook showing us that when two people love each other and have shared values love is “meant” to happen. It’s not forced, it’s not two people being together based on scarcity but from a place of abundance. They have options, but they know they live together is going to be better.
Take my advice and let me elaborate on those two questions by giving you some examples, from me;
What type of person am I?
I am an ambitious individual who loves to read non-fiction books. I also have an obnoxious sense of humour, as well as being humble, kind and very honest. (People being very honest is very important to me as I hate lies.) Also, into meditation, healthy food and habits etc.
What type of person would be the best for me to date?
Women that share the same values as me, not the opposite! If they value smoking cigarettes, having an unhealthy lifestyle, not reading books that will make their life better, then we’re not compatible. However, non-dramatic people, resourceful people, generous and kind, etc. are along the right track of who I should be looking for.
Basically, someone that will add to my life and, at the same time, I will add to theirs.
These are some of my values and what I admire from, but yours don’t have to be the same. I am just giving you some advice on how women can go about it this kind of thinking for dating in 2019…
To elaborate, ask yourself;
- How would I like this guy to treat me in an X circumstance?
- Would I like him to be highly educated, with a degree, an entrepreneur, a 9-5?
- How will he be around other people, will he treat them kindly, harshly, wouldn’t care?
- How he has to treated me and how would I want my relationship to be with him?
- Is he an adventurous guy? Does he like to travel or prefer playing PS4 at home?
The more you can write about it, the closer you will get to your ideal partner. Don’t worry if you learn more about yourself and them in the process and you end up kissing some frogs. You either win or you learn in the process.
Meeting others is an adventure and, at the same time, so is knowing more about yourself. It should be something fun to do. So, be proactive about it. You might spend a couple of years with that person or the rest of your life, so really think about what we discussed here. You want the best outcome, in order to do that you must start to recognise who might be better for you to date and who might not be. Dating in 2019 is simple, if you know how to. Bear in mind I said simple, not easy! These two questions are the best and only advice that will improve your dating life this year and your dates going on wards. So ladies I am looking forward to hearing your love stories!!!
Best x
P.S. Make these dating tips your new mantra ?
By JP