Let’s get into it. There are ton of clichés out there, especially when it comes to dating. There are some that are genuinely helpful, like remembering to listen to your gut and actions speak louder than words (both so true!) Then, there are the other ones that really need to be either updated, elaborated on or just forgotten about entirely. These are some of the ones we want to look at today. So, without further ado, here are 5 dating clichés that you can start ignoring…
First of all, where exactly is ‘there’?! Look, we all know that dating can take work. While you can just bump into someone randomly and end up together, no one knows when or if that’ll happen any time soon. If you’re wanting to meet someone, being active is the key. However, it can be extremely stressful. We all know about dating fatigue and how exhausting it can be to feel like you’re constantly trying and not getting anywhere. Plus, dating can be extremely time consuming. If you really want to give someone dating advice, try something specific. This is one of the most generic dating clichés that helps very few. Check out CLiKD if you trying to actively date.
You don’t have to share all the same interests to be
together. However, there are some values where
opposites attract probably won’t work.
This can be true in sometimes. For example, if one of you is into camping every now and then, while the other isn’t, it doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker. You don’t have to share all the same interests to be together. However, there are some values where opposites attract probably won’t work. Instances where you find that you have completely different money habits are a prime example of this. It’s not a difference that will enhance your relationship, it’ll only bring you stress.
This is one of those dating clichés that is easier said than done. No one wants to be an overthinker (speaking for experience here, overthinking never makes me happy but it happens constantly.) However, there are pros to looking at things closely. Just going with the flow can lead to missing out on red flags which could lead to a lot of hurt further down the line.
However, this Marilyn Monroe quote can quickly become
a tool in excusing inexcusable behaviour, because
everyone’s ‘worst’ is completely different.
I do agree it’s important to love your partner fully, including their flaws. However, this Marilyn Monroe quote can quickly become a tool in excusing inexcusable behaviour, because everyone’s ‘worst’ is completely different. If their worst is that they leave the toilet seat up sometimes and toothpaste in the sink, you can probably work through that. On the other hand, if their worst is that they’re abusive, controlling and they regularly cheat on you? A whole other story and you can do way better than this person!
This is probably the most annoying of the dating clichés and people use it a lot! Why?! Show me one single person who has found this helpful and not patronising. You would never tell someone who wanted a new job, not to job search because someone will just magically show up and hire them, right?! While this sentiment is probably meant to sound romantic, it really just tells single people that whatever they do doesn’t matter, because meeting someone is beyond their control. It suggests that it’s just something that happens to you, if the universe deems you worthy. People love to use this cliché as a way to tell the cute story about how they met their partner. If you think about though, on some level, one of them had to be at least open to meeting someone, otherwise they wouldn’t have ended up together, right?
So, there you have it! 5 dating clichés that you can start ignoring. There’s a lot of great dating advice out there, let’s stop giving people useless platitudes, shall we?!