So, everyone kind of knows what they like and don’t like when it comes to attraction at this point, right? Sure, there might be new things that are added to those lists all the time, for example I only recently found out that it bothers me if someone says ‘that’s funny’ instead of actually laughing. It’s the little things I suppose. However, there are a few things that most people don’t enjoy and, therefore, won’t date you because of. So, here are 8 common dating dealbreakers that put people off…
Self-explanatory really, when you’re dating it’s all about getting to know each other. If the person you’re seeing is making everything about them, from where and when you meet to all the conversation, it really says a lot. If they don’t take the time to ask you anything about you or your life, not only is that a red flag, it also shows you what you could be in for, if things develop.
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Having a similar sense of humour, or being
able to understand each other’s can be a
big part of compatibility.
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Now, this is not a dating dealbreaker for everyone, in fact one of my friends maintains that she doesn’t need to date funny people, because she’s funny enough for both of them (yes to this energy!) However, a lot of people do find being able to laugh together important. Having a similar sense of humour, or being able to understand each other’s can be a big part of compatibility.
Yup, you know the ones I mean. You say ‘hi’, they follow up with some extremely explicit comment about sex and you’re immediately uninterested. Unfortunately, a lot of us have been there. A tip for anyone who thinks this is a good move? Just don’t. How about you try and have a normal conversation and find out what they’re looking for first. Sound good?
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Pets become people’s family, who have been
with them through thick and thin. So, maybe
check from the beginning what the stance
is on animals.
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Look, a lot of people either have pets or want pets. Let’s be honest, if it’s a choice over people or some puppies/kittens, we know which one is likely to win. Pets become people’s family, who have been with them through thick and thin. So, maybe check from the beginning what the stance is on animals. One way to do that is on CLiKD with their dealbreaker questions, there are quite a few about pets too!
I hope this goes without saying, but let’s do it anyway. Bad hygiene is not only a dating dealbreaker, it’s just not acceptable ever. Regular showers, deodorant, brushing your teeth and cleaning under your fingernails? All the bare minimum we expect from people. Do your part peeps! Keep it clean.
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Sure, we all type fast and will make mistakes
every now and then, but no one wants to be
trying to decipher what your messages mean,
because the spelling and grammar is so atrocious.
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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but most phones have full keyboards now. There’s no need for text speak. The only reason we used to use it is because it saved time, with full keyboards we have that time. Also, knowing your ‘their’ from your ‘they’re’ is important. Sure, we all type fast and will make mistakes every now and then, but no one wants to be trying to decipher what your messages mean, because the spelling and grammar is so atrocious. Dating is hard enough already.
Maybe you find out that you’re not on the same page about politics, kids or marriage. It might even be things that aren’t on as big a scale as those. Either way, if your values don’t align, this can become a bigger issue down the line, so it’s important to discuss in the earlier days.
One of the ultimate dating dealbreakers. No one wants to feel like the back-up plan or your second choice. End of.
So, there you have it! 8 common dating dealbreakers that put people off. We hope you find your perfect match out there!
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