If there is one thing that has grown in popularity during the last few years and especially during the pandemic, it’s the use of dating apps. They’re everywhere. More and more people are meeting their (now) partners through them, as well as everything else in-between (looking at you situationships.) Online dating has become a huge part of people’s lives and most memorable moments, but are we learning anything? Sure, there’s the constantly expanding vocabulary of dating terms that no one wants, but what about bigger takeaways? Well, here are 6 dating lessons people have learnt from online dating…
We all know that it’s common for people to stretch the truth on apps. Whether it’s their height or posting pics from years ago that don’t reflect the present. It’s sort of expected you take everything online with a pinch of salt. However, it’s important to just be upfront and honest about what you’re looking for. For one thing, it saves a lot of time and stress. For another, there’s no point lying. Whatever you’re looking for or into, there’s likely an app for that. If you’re into guys with beards, there’s an app for that. Want to date someone from your religious background? There are apps for that. There’s also no point pretending to be someone you’re not, because it’ll backfire in the long run. If you want to meet people on your wavelength, check out CLiKD!
If you’re starting to feel overwhelmed by it all and that
you’re not having enough time for yourself, then
Dating is time consuming. There, I said it! If there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s feeling like I’ve had my time wasted. It’s one thing you can’t get back. One of the greatest dating lessons is realising you should definitely value your own time. If you’re starting to feel overwhelmed by it all and that you’re not having enough time for yourself, then prioritise that. It can be so easy to be on a date that you’re not really feeling, wishing you were doing something else with your time, but not wanting to seem rude by cutting it short. If you’re not enjoying yourself and you already know you don’t want to spend more time with them, say your goodbyes and go do something you’ll actually enjoy with people you like. Life’s too short!
I guess I should also say you learn about the people who can’t handle rejection (and there are A LOT!) We all know about ghosting and how much it sucks, especially if you really liked the person and thought you could see things going somewhere. It’s easy to take every single rejection personally, but it’s important to remember there are other factors that affect people’s lives. They really might have just realised they’re not ready to date or just feel they should be focusing on themselves and their mental health. It happens.
On the other hand, the fact that there are so many options
means that people are more willing to end something with
potential if they come across any minor issue.
One of the most common dating lessons is definitely that too much choice is not always a good thing. First, just choosing the apps you want to use can feel overwhelming in and of itself. Then there’s the fact that there are so many people using them. This can be great for meeting and interacting with people you may not have initially considered or crossed paths with otherwise. On the other hand, the fact that there are so many options means that people are more willing to end something with potential if they come across any minor issue. Instead of finding out if you could’ve worked through it, they tell themselves that there’s a world of other people out there anywhere.
Seriously. Just a ton of people that’ll have you going ‘absolutely not. Thank you, goodbye!’ On a positive note, this can help you figure out what you’re actually looking for.
This is probably one of the most irritating dating lessons. After a ton of rom-coms and Disney movies told us that anything is possible as long as you’re into each other, it’s a tough pill to swallow that this isn’t actually the case. You can have an amazing connection with someone and mutual attraction, but sometimes it still won’t work. Why? Well, you both need to want and be ready for the same thing. Both parts are equally important. You can both want the same thing in theory, but if one of you isn’t ready for it, well… things won’t last long.
So, there you have it! 6 dating lessons people have learnt from online dating. It’s always valuable to look at any experiences you’ve had and see how you can grow from them. Good luck!