The Love Island fans need no introduction to this topic. This year’s contestant, Leanne, gave all viewers a crash course in getting the ick. You might have found yourself relating it to your own love life, asking yourself ‘have I got the ick?’ For those of you who missed the episode, here’s a refresher and answer to what the ick is. The ick is when you find yourself dating someone and, all of a sudden, everything about their being or existence makes you cringe. It’s a feeling you can’t shake off and it intensifies with time. Sometimes, it’s set off by something they said or did. Other times, it comes out of nowhere, hitting you like a ton of bricks. Regardless, it really puts a dampener on things, as it tends to happen early on and it’s hard to come back from. Basically, you start seeing them for the melt that they truly are. We want to help by letting you know what to look out for. So, here are 4 signs you’re getting the ick and what it means…
There is definitely a difference between wanting to have some time to yourself every now and then, to just actively avoiding the person you’re seeing. If you’re starting to come up with excuses not to see them, coming up with ways to cancel your plans and counting down the minutes till you can leave their presence, then there’s a problem. You’re probably getting the ick.
The best thing to do is to just be honest, instead of avoiding them indefinitely. It’s the grown-up approach and ghosting out of nowhere is a horrible way to deal with it.
Yes, it could be that you’re getting the ick, but could
you have had bad experiences in the past that are
making you fearful of taking these steps with them?
This could never be a good sign. When we say ‘being physical’, we mean everything. From sex to them literally trying to hold your hand. Even them being in the same vicinity as you makes you feel a bit queasy and not in a nervous, butterflies type of way. Of course, it’s important to try and see where this feeling is stemming from. Is there another underlying issue?
Yes, it could be that you’re getting the ick, but could you have had bad experiences in the past that are making you fearful of taking these steps with them? Maybe you just feel that the sexual chemistry is not there anymore. Either way, something to consider first.
Now this is a sure sign that you’re getting the ick. When it gets to the point of them not being able to do anything right by you. You no longer find them funny. The way they sit, eat or laugh gets to you. Basically, you no longer enjoy anything about being in their company. You’re one step away from screaming at them about the way they chew their gum.
If this is the case, then there is probably no going back. Better to end things before you genuinely end up hating and resenting them.
When your thoughts start to move from just admiring
to actually thinking of actively pursuing someone else,
it’s probably time to call it quits because the ick is here.
This is the most telling of all. You know you’re starting to get the ick when you’re starting to seriously weigh up your options. Your glance is no more a ‘oh they’re cute, moving on’. It’s now a ‘oh they’re cute, are they single? I’m going over, oh… wait!’ When your thoughts start to move from just admiring to actually thinking of actively pursuing someone else, it’s probably time to call a quits because the ick is here.
Obviously, having a wandering eye in general does not bode well for a happy relationship. Don’t be that person who cheats, the ick is no excuse for that!
Getting the ick is never the best feeling, especially if they’ve been doing all the right things. However, it’s the perfect time to revaluate what it is that you’re looking for. It might just be a case of you needing to slow things down and needing more time to get to know them. You have to decide if the things that are giving you the ick can be handled long term. Anyway, it’s important for you to take stock of the situation before deciding. Best of luck!
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