Ah, modern love. It can start anywhere. During Cuffing Season, in a bar, on the bus, on an app, in your DMs. For the foreseeable future, it’s likely to be one of the last two options, but that’s ok! Look, sliding into someone’s DMs can get a bad rep. That’s probably because you’ve been doing it all wrong! Messaging someone on Instagram because you saw their profile on CLiKD and didn’t match, so you went to find them online? Wrong. Messaging someone on Instagram because you have mutual friends and met them maybe once or twice? We can work with that. What better time than now to provide you with a guide on how to slide into someone’s DMs: the do’s and don’ts…
First, you’ve got to test the waters. You can’t dive in with a message out of nowhere. That can come across extremely creepy and you might end up with no response/blocked. No, before you slide into someone’s DMs, follow them on said social media channel first. If they have a private account, wait to see if they except. If they have a public account, see if they follow you back. Once that’s happened, you can feel slightly more comfortable shooting your shot…
When I say interesting, I definitely do not mean sending a d**k pic.
No one is interested in that, unless they ask.
Look, let’s just assume that you’re not the only person who has tried sliding into this person’s DMs. You want to stand out. Starting a conversation with ‘hey’ is not ground-breaking. ‘Hey’ is an easy message to scroll past. You have to find something interesting to say to make it worth their time. When I say interesting, I definitely do not mean sending a d**k pic. No one is interested in that, unless they ask. Remember that!
The thing with sliding into someone’s DMs is that you can’t be shy about it. You have to own making such a bold move. That means you’ve got to be confident about it. You have to keep the conversation moving and really bring you’re A-game.
If you’re looking for a way to naturally slide into someone’s DMs, one option is responding to their social media stories. Then you can show that you have a common interest (depending on the story content.) Also, it’s a less creepy way of starting things. Instead of being all ‘I’ve been watching you’ or liking and commenting on all their pics, this is a less invasive way to start things off.
Cannot stress this one enough. Rule of life right here! Don’t bombard them with messages or inappropriate pictures when you slide into someone’s DMs. Also, think about the social media platform you’re using to approach them. Twitter and Instagram, probably to be expected. Sliding into someone’s DMs on LinkedIn? Hell no. It’s a professional setting! Read the room, people. Also, if someone doesn’t respond or blocks you, that’s their right. Respect it!
So, there you have it! Our guide on how to slide into someone’s DMs: the do’s and don’ts. You can still ‘meet’ new people during this time and line up some dates for whenever all this ends. Silver linings, folks!