This advice will apply both to your online matches, as well as how to make a lasting impression once you upgrade to ‘first date’ worthy status. Most first dates, however, don’t continue to a second one. So, to make sure you’re well versed in staying memorable, we’ve given you this super-helpful list of things to do. See how nice we are?
We get it, it’s been over said. Like, a lot. This is because, believe it or not, it’s actually true. The alternative is to lie and be someone you’re not. Don’t do this. It’s a terrible idea. Firstly, the person you’re with won’t like you. They may like the imageyou’ve painted, (good job, Picasso) but not the real you. Secondly, you won’t be comfortable in your own skin, and that’s a big problem.
No, be yourself, and not only will you come off as more confident, but if they end up not liking you, then that’s a good thing. It means you were never meant to be anyway. You can skip along to the next one now. Lovely jubbly.
Have you heard the modern adage of ‘Treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen’? Well here’s why it’s wrong. Being mean doesn’t keep your date keen. If anything, it’ll push them away, because mean people aren’t cool, dude. What it really does is push all the decent, loving people away, while at the same time emotionally manipulating a whole lot more, if you choose to push and pull on their heartstrings. Super not cool.
Now, we’re not saying be needy and desperate. You can play it cool, you can wait a while before replying to messages, but genuinely kind and caring people make a farbetter impression on people than the reverse.
Do and say memorable things
The easiest way to make yourself more memorable, to stick in your date’s mind is to be more memorable. You can achieve this in a few different ways, but the easiest is simply to do and say unique and memorable things. Skip all the boring, off-the-shelf conversational topics. Don’t spend a huge amount of time discussing what each other do for a living, what they’re planning next week, or how their journey to the bar was.
Instead, ask them what their favourite shape is, whether they’d rather have the power of invisibility or flight, whether they’d prefer being a bear or a shark? These are, of course, random questions, and feel free (in fact, we encourage it) to be spontaneous and come up with your own. Spontaneity and sincerity is the key here. Don’t spend hours writing out a list beforehand of ‘random’ questions to ask them. It’ll come off as forced and insincere. Be different, break the mould, and get you some dates!
So, that’s it for our top 3 tips for making that lasting impression! Just remember to be yourself and be kind, funny and charming (obviously an easy task), and you’ll do just fine!