The formula for understanding guys requires you to break away from macho stereotypes and really get to know them. Every man is different, just like every woman is different, so there is no perfect formula that will let you know what’s going on inside his head. However, with a few tips, you can get to know him better and say and do the right things.
Here’s the secret formula that you need to understand guys. On a basic level, you just need to pay attention and open your mind. Here are the best tips:
Just as women don’t want or deserve to be stereotyped, neither do men. Men can be introverted or extroverted, goal-oriented or wanderers, and so on. To get to know a man, not as a man but as an individual, ask him questions. Then sit back and let him do most of the talking. He will return the favor later if he is interested in pursuing a relationship.
Sometimes it’s hard to tell if a guy is flirting or just being friendly. Watch how he behaves around others, men and women, to gauge his natural personality versus any attempts to be especially charming around you. Does he treat you differently than others? Does he preen in your presence and make a lot of eye contact? He may be working up the courage to invite you over. Give him subtle encouragement if you think he needs it.
Does he preen in your presence and make a lot of eye contact? He may be working up the courage to invite you over.
Stereotypes of how men should act can make some men uncomfortable expressing their emotions. Give him the reassurance he needs, to know that it’s okay to express what he’s feeling and that he doesn’t always have to maintain the tough-guy image, if he does, when you’re alone together. There won’t be a lot of reading him or trying to understand his mind, as long as you give him the opportunity to feel comfortable expressing his thoughts and feelings with you.
While men and women are more alike than some members of both sexes would admit, many men still want to be the provider. Even when a man knows that his partner is fully capable of solving problems or taking care of herself, sometimes he likes to be the hero. When the opportunity arises to let him look like he saved the day, with a DIY job in your apartment, for example, step back and let him do it.
Touch is important to most men. Give him a good impromptu shoulder rub or kiss. Sometimes that’s all you need to brighten his mood and get him talking. Understand that for many men, touching is a language of its own and simply touching his arm during a conversation can say a lot.
Many men enjoy the thrill of the chase. That doesn’t mean that as soon as he catches you, he gets bored. However, making your life revolve around him will turn him off. Show your confidence and make sure you have a life outside of your relationship to keep him interested. As an added benefit, keeping friendships and interests outside of the relationship will ensure that you stay well-informed, are more intriguing, and feel better about yourself. You’ll also have a lot more to talk about with your guy when you get together again.
Show your confidence and make sure you have a life outside of your relationship to keep him interested.
So what’s the big secret? Don’t get caught up in the differences between men and women because they are more similar than you think. The formula for understanding guys is the same as understanding anyone: communicate, ask questions, show your interest in him, also touch him as a method of communication and give him space when he needs it. Sure, there are times when he just wants to feel like a man, fix things and provide for his partner. Just step back to allow him to express his feelings through actions and words. It takes a much less intuitive understanding when you open the way for good communication.