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6 SIGNS YOU’RE SETTLING FOR LESS WHEN DATING

For anyone who has been single for a while, you might have been told by many partnered mates that your expectations are too high and that you should lower them. After a while, you start to wonder if they’re right, but ask yourself this. Would they have been happy settling for less? There’s a huge difference between having unrealistically high expectations and having the expectation of wanting to be treated with basic respect. If you’re someone who has been on TikTok lately, there is a ton of content about how a lot of us have been accepting the bare minimum. As well as why we should stop. Society has conditioned us to think that being with someone, anyone, is better than being alone. I disagree. So, with that in mind, here are 6 signs you’re settling for less when dating…

Don't be someone settling for less

You’re still on the lookout for something else/better

If you find that when you’re out and about, you’re still on the lookout for a potential partner. Or you find yourself daydreaming about either an ‘improved’ version of your partner or (more or less) the complete opposite, you may be settling for less. When you’re happy in your situation, sure you’ll still see people you find attractive, but if you’re really happy, you don’t think of acting on it.

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However, if those quirks get to you, to the

point of making your blood boil and making

you resent their entire existence in your life,

chances are you’re settling for less…

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Little things about them bother you A LOT

Of course, there might be a few little quirks they have that get under your skin sometimes. Completely normal, no one is perfect. However, if those quirks get to you, to the point of making your blood boil and making you resent their entire existence in your life, chances are you’re settling for less…

You’re constantly comparing

If you're constantly comparing your situation to other people, you might be settling for less

It can be hard not to compare yourself to other people and other relationships, especially in the world of social media. However, if you’re comparing what the two of you have to what other couples have, or worse, comparing them to your ex, that’s not healthy at all. It may be time for you to evaluate what exactly it is you want and whether you’re getting it.

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If you want to completely transform them into

a whole new person that fits your ideal, what

did you like about them to begin with? Surely,

you’re settling for less…

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You want to change them

If you find yourself trying to change everything about them, from the way they dress, to what they enjoy to their personality, that is 100% a red flag. As I said earlier, no one is perfect, but if you want to completely transform into a whole new person that fits your ideal, what did you like about them to begin with? Surely, you’re settling for less…

You feel guilty about dumping someone

The idea of dumping someone fills you with dread, so you find ways to talk yourself out of it. This could be because you think being in something is better than nothing. Whatever the reason, if you have been thinking of dumping them quite frequently, don’t ignore that voice in your head…

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Think of it this way. If you don’t enjoy being

with yourself, why should someone else? It’s

definitely possible to be lonely in an

unhappy dating situation…

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Being alone is the worst thing you can think of

If you find that you’re someone who can’t be alone or doesn’t know how to be alone, it’s possible that you’ll find yourself settling for less. The societal pressure to be with someone can be crushing and comes at you from angles. Remember, there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Think of it this way. If you don’t enjoy being with yourself, why should someone else? It’s definitely possible to be lonely in an unhappy dating situation…

Why should you settling for less when you can be single and sexy?

So, there you have! 6 signs you’re settling for less when dating. Look, times are changing and everyone is on their own path. Don’t feel like you have to settle to fit into the mould society has made. Stay true to the Queen or King that you are peeps!