So, while lockdown is slowing being eased here in the UK, we’re still not quite back to the stage of being able to date as freely as before (there are only so many walks and trips to the park someone can go on, right?!) You may be looking for ways to keep the spark going with someone you’re seeing or maybe you’re just running out of ways to keep things… interesting. Well, never fear! We’re here to help. Whether you’ve tried sexting before (or not) it can be a lot of fun, if done right. Now, we’re not suggesting anyone send unsolicited dick pics (that is absolutely the wrong way to do it and it’s never acceptable, people!) We just want to make sure that if you do want to sext, you have a helpful guide. So, here are 5 sexting tips because there’s a right way to do it…
While you might be ready for some sexting, it doesn’t necessarily mean the person you’re dating/seeing is. It might not even be something they’re comfortable with at all, so getting consent first is everything. Going from casual chat to sexting out of nowhere is a great way to get your number blocked. You can just start things off by seeing if they’re into some NSFW chat. Plus, we all know how sexy consent is. It’s the perfect way to start! If you’re looking for someone who’s on your wavelength as you, check out CLiKD!
You might want to make sure that they’re in a place
(literally) where they’re up for sexting.
Whether you know from first-hand experience or you’ve heard about it from friends, it is never not awkward if someone tries to sext you at the wrong time. You might want to make sure that they’re in a place (literally) where they’re up for sexting. If you know they’ve gone to a family event or are in a work meeting, maybe not the best time for a sext (unless that’s something you’ve discussed beforehand and are into. Then, I guess you do you?)
Sexting can be a great test run before you actually get physical with whoever you’re dating/seeing. It can also be a less intimidating space to open up about any fantasies you have. When you don’t have to look them in the eye, there can be less fear of feeling judged. It’s perfect for experimenting and sharing fantasies can end up bringing you a lot closer.
You can also really get into your foreplay here, part of
the fun of sexting is the build-up and anticipation.
I know there are some people who see voicenotes as pointless, the argument being ‘why don’t you just have an actual phone call?’ but I have to say that I absolutely love them! Of course, you have your gifs and emojis (hello, this is your dirty emoji starter pack 🍆💦🌮🍑) but voice can add something hotter to your sexting experience. Voicenotes can add another level of intimacy, even if the talk isn’t overly explicit. We’re not saying you have to try and force a sexy voice (that can get awkward real quick) but involving more of the senses in sexting will definitely turn up the heat.
Look, this is not the time for technical, medical vocabulary (unless that’s a specific thing you’re both into.) Now, is the perfect time for euphemisms and some slang. You can also really get into your foreplay here, part of the fun of sexting is the build-up and anticipation. In fact, if you and the person you’re seeing/dating have any hot memories together, now is the time to get creative and involve those memories to get you both in the mood. If you don’t have those memories yet, you can always create some scenarios and let your imagination run wild. Now’s your time to shine!
So, there you have it! 5 sexting tips because there’s a right way to do it. Just remember to have fun with it and if you’re feeling uncomfortable at any point, you can opt out and shouldn’t be shamed for doing so. Enjoy!