So, you may have heard the word ‘simp’ or ‘simping’ lately. If you’re anything like me, you may have been like “sorry, what? Am I meant to know what that means?” Well, no worries, we’re about to tell you. Essentially, simping comes from the word simpering, or there’s the abbreviation which stands for ‘Somebody/Sucker who Idolizes Mediocre P***y’. The term (mainly used by Gen Z and on TikTok) refers to when someone is trying to attract someone they fancy by being nice, to the point of being a doormat/subservient, but not actually getting any sexual favours for their ‘time’. Of course, I’d be the first to say that just because you’re nice to someone, it doesn’t mean you should expect sex (looking at you people that cry ‘friendzone’ constantly.) The phrase is mainly used to refer to men being nice to women and not getting laid after that (although women post about it too). So, now that we know that, here are 4 examples of simping, apparently…
*Note: The following aren’t bad things, they’ve just been giving negative connotations because apparently men should only be nice to women, if they’re going to get laid. Can’t stress this enough, no one is entitled to sex. Back to our scheduled programming.
Now, some would call this friendship but, others would call it simping. Apparently, supporting a friend who is going through a rough time is just not acceptable, unless you’re going to get some? The reason this isn’t great is that it not only suggests that men and women can’t be friends, but also makes it seem that being supportive should be rewarded.
However, it’s another thing entirely if you’re just
assuming that because you fancy them and you were
nice, then they should automatically repay you with
sexual favours. Not cool!
Simping is basically doing anything to get a girl’s attention, no matter how it affects your dignity, so going above and beyond to support and help them really captures being a ‘simp’ in a nutshell. Now, it’s one thing if someone is purposely taking advantage of the fact that you fancy them, to get you to do stuff for them. That’s just mean. However, it’s another thing entirely if you’re just assuming that because you fancy them and you were nice, then they should automatically repay you with sexual favours. Not cool!
Not just limited to gifts, this also includes buying them dinner. Again, it’s not an exchange of services. If you choose to get someone gifts or pay for their dinner, they can obviously decline, but if they do accept, they haven’t signed some sort of invisible contract saying they’ll sleep with you. Of course, there are a lot of people who just see things like giving gifts as a nice gesture and that is what makes others consider it simping. If you want to check potential partner’s thoughts on gifts etc, check out CLiKD.
Regardless, if you’re getting vibes that someone isn’t
into you in that way, either accept it or just ask them about
it and see what they say.
With this one, there are a ton of reasons why they might ask who else is coming. Maybe they do know that you fancy them and they don’t want to lead you on. It’s also possible they don’t feel like you’re that close, so why would you hang out just the two of you? Or maybe they don’t get that you meant something date like, because the phrasing was quite vague. Regardless, if you’re getting vibes that someone isn’t into you in that way, either accept it or just ask them about it and see what they say.
So, there you have it! 4 examples of simping and what exactly it is. Look, I think now is as good a time as any to say that if you’re only being nice to someone because you think that’ll get them to sleep with you and then whining when they don’t? Might be time to re-evaluate things…