Who hasn’t fallen madly in love with their crush and even changed their personality/way of acting simply to please that person? If you still don’t know or cannot detect it, because you’ve been blinded by love and compulsive obsession, CLiKD can help you figure it out. We detail the most common symptoms that prove you’re slithering like a snake, stalking its prey. These are 3 signs that you are losing your ass to the person you like.
Are you trying to make yourself interesting by not responding instantly, even though you’re checking if they’ve messaged you all f**king day? If you’re one of those people who ends up stalking them to see if they’re online. Or you’re reading messages without opening your notifications and waiting to answer them twice as long as it took them to answer you last time. These are clear signs that you’re obsessing. You’re clearly giving it more thought and importance than you really should. Our advice? Ask yourself ‘do you want to meet him or her?’ If yes, then answer the message! It’s true that answering immediately could perhaps seem desperate. However, taking almost half a day to send a message, you run the risk of getting a rebound effect and finally, they will dump you! If you want to date someone who communicate well, check out CLiKD!
Sometimes, love or sex must be prioritized.
But be careful!
Even if you have plans, when they suggest meeting, do you say you don’t have any plans at all? So, you have plans with your friends, and you have a pending date with them in your diary. Then, if your crush texts you and offers you some random plan, you are going to lose your ass for them and cancel absolutely everything that you had planned.
Let’s be honest, your friends will understand you. Sometimes, love or sex must be prioritized. But be careful! This technique should be used sparingly. It’s very likely that if you do it repeatedly, you will fall into the loop of depending on the love and company of your crush before that of your friends. Plus, it’s peak stalking behavior. It’s very likely that they will get tired and end up seeing you less. So, at CLiKD, we strongly advise that you do this very rarely, to protect your social rep.
Your true personality is the one they have to like,
not the most desperate version of yourself
Are you going to go to the places where you know their ass will be, because they are your priority, even if to them you are just an option? Every Friday, they go to the same place for drinks and it just so happens that you also turn up there with your friends. This is fine… if it happens once, but DO NOT repeat it more than once (at least in the same month) as they will think you are a born stalker.
The best advice we can give (if you present all the symptoms above) is to stop planning your life as if it were a chess move. Be yourself and let things flow. Remember that your true personality is the one they have to like, not the most desperate version of yourself who is essentially stalking them.