Asking a girl to be your girlfriend can be a big step, especially if you consider that you are asking a girl to ignore all her other potential partners to focus on you. For this reason, the act of asking should be well thought out and should match the girl’s personality. In other words, don’t stage an elaborate, romantic moment if the girl is going to burst out laughing or flee the scene out of embarrassment.
One of the tips for preparing for an anxiety-provoking conversation is to consider how the other person is feeling. Consider their feelings as you plan what you want to say. Nervousness can cause you to fumble with your words and accidentally avoid asking the question, “Will you be my girlfriend?” Don’t be vague; you don’t want to walk away from the conversation wondering if she said “yes” to being your girlfriend or not.
The key to asking her is to make sure you ask the actual question instead of beating around the bush. This way, there are no misunderstandings at the end of the conversation. Keep in mind that with such a direct question the girl may not be ready to give an answer right away and may need time to think about it. If this is the case, try to be patient and suggest a specific day and time when you can talk to her again for an answer. The right words for this situation might be, “I understand that you want to think this through – how about we talk about this again on Monday, and then you can give me your answer?”
Try to be patient and suggest a specific day and time when you can talk to her again for an answer
While it may seem old-fashioned, this conversation is best had face-to-face whenever possible. If it has to happen via text or online (as in the case of a long-distance relationship), you should still be sure to make your question or statement clear. And of course, what are cameras for if not for seeing eye-to-eye during important conversations?
A special place that means something to the two of you (like where you met or a place you frequent a lot) is an ideal place to ask, as it adds romance and shows her how much time you’ve spent thinking about this. She’ll understand that this wasn’t a spontaneous decision that you may later regret.
A special place that means something to the two of you is an ideal place to ask
If you take some time to plan the moment to ask her to be your girlfriend, there are many cute ways to ask. Keep in mind that, if the girl isn’t the type of person who would enjoy something cute, then using a cute way to ask her to be your girlfriend could send the message that you don’t really know her or may make her feel uncomfortable.
It’s important to go into the moment confident and ready. On the other hand, don’t rehearse so much beforehand that the moment becomes a monologue where you don’t hear her response. Whether you plan an elaborate moment or plan it more casually, make sure your intentions are clear and try to help her feel at ease. The less awkward and anxious you feel, the more comfortable the moment will be for both of you.