There are a lot of issues that crop up in dating that could definitely be avoided with some clear communication. Let’s be honest, a lot of things we’ve just assumed are common decency and respect are being forgotten. You shouldn’t have to ask someone you’re dating to be nice to you, right? Well, we thought it was worth discussing some dating etiquette, just in case you didn’t already know it. So, here are 5 unspoken dating rules we all should know…
The worst thing to do is to assume that you and whoever you’re seeing are on the same page. If you want something more casual, say so. Same as if you want something more serious. Hints can be misinterpreted and ignored, so just be direct about it. This unspoken dating rule will hopefully stop anyone from being led on as well.
No one wants to hear you proclaiming that all your
exes are crazy on a first date. They also don’t want
to go down memory lane with you, while you
remember the good times.
Yes, if things go well and start to progress, it might be worth having a chat about dating history, but no one wants to hear you proclaiming that all your exes are crazy on a first date. They also don’t want to go down memory lane with you, while you remember the good times. It’s a huge turn off and a massive red flag.
Now, there is still the whole debate about who should pay on the first date and that’s a whole other story. Regardless of your views, it’s important to at least come prepared. I always think it’s best to approach at as if you would be going halves. Even if your date offers to fit the bill, it’s always good to be prepared. While it is a dealbreaker to some if their date doesn’t offer to pay, don’t assume they will or that they have to. If these are the kind of questions you like to know the answers to beforehand, check out CLiKD and their either/or questions.
You don’t offer to get someone drinks or buy
them dinner and then automatically assume
you’ll be getting laid now, it’s up to when/if
both of you want it.
Cannot stress this enough, just because someone goes on date with you doesn’t mean they owe sex or even a kiss. It’s not an exchange of services. You don’t offer to get someone drinks or buy them dinner and then automatically assume you’ll be getting laid now, it’s up to when/if both of you want it. Like I mentioned earlier, if you’re just looking for sex, let the other person know so they can decide if they want the same thing. This is one of the unspoken dating rules that really does (unfortunately) need to be mentioned more.
Should go without saying, but it’s worth mentioning. If you go into a date pretending to be someone you’re not, what’s the point? The point of dating is to see if you and this person are compatible, the best way to do that is to be yourself. Plus, if you pretend to be someone else, that just sounds like a lot of unnecessary work to keep up that façade. If they don’t like the real you, it’s not meant to be.
So, there you have it! 5 unspoken dating rules we all should know. If someone you’re seeing isn’t adhering to them, feel free to send them this post. We’ve got your back! 😉