Even if years have passed, one of the strangest feelings we can experience is our ex trying to be our friend. A relationship does not always end on good terms, because the reasons for it ending can be infidelity, mistreatment or simply lack of love for one of the parties. It is often for these reasons that couples decide to separate, definitively losing contact with each other.
However, we know that some exes try to come back into your life either on social networks or through friends in common. Although this may seem very strange to you, it is possible to have a friendly relationship with an ex following a romantic relationship, provided that limits are set by both parties. But why does your unfaithful ex ask to be friends? Here are some of the reasons why your ex asks to be your friend.
There are two main reasons why your ex asks you to be friends. The first one is because he still has feelings for you and wants to get back together with you. Beware, because in some cases they may approach you just in order to find out if you still have feelings for them, to boost their ego. The second reason why your ex wants to be your friend is because you really meant a lot to them and they don’t want to lose you as a friend. They will give you your space and understand that it’s over between you. Besides, the trust you built will be hard to break and they need you by their side as the friend they´ve been waiting for.
Beware, because in some cases they may approach you just in order to find out if you still have feelings for them
Unfortunately, you and your ex may not be doing anything wrong, but for a new suitor this is something they won’t tolerate. Not many people look favorably on a friendship after a relationship because they feel threatened. Also, if you want to be friends with your ex, you must be clear that neither he nor you want each other as a couple because, if it is the case that you still have romantic feelings towards him, the only thing you will achieve will be to deceive yourself with the hope that there is still something between you.
The answer is yes, as long as both of you have overcome everything you have been through and are therefore on different paths. It is also valid to not want to be friends with your ex. It all depends on whether or not you feel comfortable sharing things with him.
So remember, being friends with your ex-boyfriend does not make you a bad person nor does it mean that you are not over him, but if this takes away your peace and emotional stability, it is also valid to stay away completely.