Have you ever wondered why do we flirt? Flirting is fun, but when your boyfriend or girlfriend flirts with someone else, it can hurt. So why do people flirt and why is it a double-edged sword?
Why do people flirt? Everyone flirts, from the youngest person to the oldest, because flirting is an intrinsic, natural and fun form of human interaction and communication. People flirt whether they are truly attracted to each other or not. This is the function of flirting: to communicate, provoke and generally involve another person in one’s life, however, it does not necessarily indicate physical or emotional interest. Here are a few reasons why.
Flirting is like human self-promotion. Flirting announces to the world that someone is available, interested and fit for a relationship. That relationship doesn’t have to be that of a partner. In fact, friends are just as likely to flirt with each other as two people who are interested in each other romantically.
Flirting announces to the world that someone is available
When someone smiles at you, you’re likely to smile back. Even if you’re shy and insecure, that smile will make you feel good inside. When you smile at someone, your eyes light up, your expression becomes more open and you make someone else feel good. It’s not unusual to crave that “good feeling” associated with the way someone else flirts with you.
Flirting includes you and gets you into situations you might not otherwise have access to. Imagine, walking into a room and a person smiles at you and asks you a question loud enough for you to hear while they are looking at you. The combination of eye contact and verbal gesture is inclusive, not only does it give you attention, but it includes you in the situation you come into, that inclusion makes you feel good and more comfortable.
Flirting includes you and gets you into situations you might not otherwise have access to
If you’re not sure if you’re good at flirting, you can learn a lot of tips and tricks, but you must remember that flirting is about attitude. It’s about being playful, cheerful, spontaneous and confident. If you don’t feel those things, you can fake it and let that help you break the ice. Use flirting to start new conversations, meet new people and strengthen bonds with your friends and acquaintances.
So why do people flirt? The best answer is: to open doors to new experiences, build relationships and start interesting conversations. Think about that the next time you worry that you have nothing to say. A good smile, a question, and some flirting can be a great way to strike up a good conversation and start a possible friendship or something more.