You know who is likely to give you the best dating advice? Nope, not your married mates or the ones who are constantly in a relationship. The consensus is that it’s actually single people. If you’re single, you’ve probably observed the dysfunctions of other people’s relationships and because of that, and not being part of it, you can give clear, unbiased advice. Truth is, it can be hard to find actually helpful dating tips and people tend to hear the same useless and (let’s be honest) counterproductive advice all the time. It’s exhausting. It can be disheartening. We’ve rounded some of them up for you. Here are the top 5 worst dating advice tips people constantly get…
Anyone else want to scream when they hear this being said? Personally, I hate it and it has never once been helpful to me or anyone I know. It makes it seem like there’s nothing you can do and you have no say in the matter. It also makes it seem like it’s pointless for you to be going out and trying to meet people. Being in a relationship doesn’t just ‘happen’ to you. You both actively have to be in it together, communicating and making the effort to grow together. Which is why “it will happen when you least expect it” is the worst dating advice!
Telling people who want to meet someone not to
do anything that can help them meet people is
counterproductive, and high on the list of the
worst dating advice.
This is just stupid when you think about it. For everything else in life, you don’t just expect that if you do nothing, things will just magically happen, do you? If you wanted a job for example, you’d be job hunting. You’d be sending out your application, going to interviews, putting your profile on job sites etc. Same with dating. You’d be on dating apps, like CLiKD, going on dates and seeing what happens. Telling people who want to meet someone not to do anything that can help them meet people is counterproductive, and high on the list of the worst dating advice.
Ah, playing hard to get. Maybe that worked when you were a teenager, but no one has time for that now. Dating is hard enough without trying to work out if the person you like/are seeing is actually interested in you. A lot of people will argue that if you show that you’re interested, you’ll come across as too eager and scare them off. I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you show someone that you like them and they run away, they probably weren’t the one…
I’m a firm believer that if you like someone
and they feel the same, it shouldn’t matter if
you respond immediately or who messages first.
You’ve probably heard the whole thing of waiting to text back so you don’t seem ‘too available’. I’m a firm believer that if you like someone and they feel the same, it shouldn’t matter if you respond immediately or who messages first. If you get a message from them and you’re not busy, why not reply? There are way worse things in the grand scheme of life than replying to a text immediately.
I can’t be any clearer than this. If someone has let you know that they’re not interested, then they’re not interested. It isn’t a challenge. They’re not saying you need to work to change their mind. A lot of TV shows and movies have romanticised the idea of persistence but in real life, it’s creepy. No means no. End of! Telling people to ignore other’s wishes is the worst dating advice.
So, there you have it! The top 5 worst dating advice tips people constantly get. We hope that knowing these will help you out there. Stay safe and happy dating all!
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